By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.
John 13:35 (ESV)
In his book, A Grandmother’s Prayer, songwriter and record producer Chris Christian shares something important he has learned over the years. “Young musicians often ask me for advice on how to ‘make it’ in the business. I tell them, ‘Be nice.’ If people like you, they’ll want to have you around. If you’re a jerk, they won’t.” Chris adds, “Simply being agreeable is what got me in the door. People often say it’s who you know that matters. I would say it’s not who you know—but who likes you. Talent matters, of course. But being an agreeable and friendly person is just as important.” (p. 57.)
In these days of frustration, hardship and isolation brought about by the pandemic, fuses are short, tempers are raging, and loneliness is rampant. As a rebel to the wrong it feels good to challenge the status quo and just be nice! Nice people grant others space to stand out; they give selfless gifts of grace; they look out for, help and support others. Just to be clear they are also:
Agreeable—they are willing to agree and to even disagree agreeably
Caring—they smile often, remember names, and exude warmth
Confident—they embody self-assurance in their own talents and abilities
Disciplined—they remain calm and composed no matter what comes their way
Enjoyable—they purpose to be a delight; to bring pleasure to others
Genuine—they admit it when they don’t know or don’t like something or need help
Inquisitive—they ask great questions to understand and empathize with others
Listeners—they learn a great deal more by listening rather than talking
Nonjudgmental—they refuse to alienate others on the basis of standards or opinions
Noncompetitive—they don’t compete for one-upmanship over others
Positive—they refuse to be cynical; they choose to see the glass half-full
Present—they pay close attention to details to better understand the moment
Responsible—they don’t blame others for their mistakes; they are reliable and accountable
Trustworthy—they are consistent in word and action; they are congruent
Wise—they don’t give unsolicited advice
Be nice! Jesus said so.